A NOTE: 
To the Separated who are planning to reunite

A NOTE: 
To Those whose love relationship broke because of the death of a spouse

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Add this Page to your favorites A NOTE to the newly divorced and separated:
If you are experiencing emotional and physical pain as a result of separation, divorce, loss of a spouse or a broken long term love relationship it is understandable....
You are having a natural  reaction to what will probably be the most significant loss of your lifetime.  As you go through the process you will notice that you are experiencing numerous strong feelings all at the same time. 
Fear, pain and powerlessness now immobilize you at a time when you need to make major and many decisions and adjustments. You may feel like you are going crazy...but you aren't!  ...As soon as you can bring yourself out of the shock, talk to people who have a kind listening ear, such as a supportive close friend, a personal Life coach, a therapist, or someone you know who has lived this similar experience.
TALK to them! You are not alone.

... You have the power to come out of this experience a healthy magnificent person... even better than before you met this experience!
You do not need to remain in this pain and turmoil for a long period of time.  I repeat.. You DO NOT need to remain paralyzed in the pain and anger and the confusion. You can choose to apply action towards your recovery immediately after the decision to end the marriage has been made, whether by you, or for you. You may be powerless about the  broken marriage...but you CAN BE POWERFUL in your  recovery ...

You can seek divorce recovery by attending divorce recovery seminars, by talking to people who support you in your recovery, by reading self-help books and applying it to your life, by hiring a personal life coach to coach you to getting recovery ..... Pick up some ideas on how to move forward in your life...a little bit at a time... anything is better than nothing at all.
I created a recovery program specifically for people experiencing divorce and separation. It has all the information you will ever need for your recovery starting from before your spouse exited the door to even years after the divorce.. At any stage you can start feeling better by working the Lifeline Recovery Program.
I urge you to start doing positive recovery today, even though you may be feeling weak and unable to concentrate. Start reading the program or have a friend read the program to you so you can talk it over and it may get you going. Recovery work is the very thing that will make you strong again and take you positively back in to living the rest of your life. 
 

Have you just been told their marriage has ended? Do you need  information to help you survive? Lifeline will immediately  helps you to find your way  out of the debris of your collapsed marriage.You will have information to empower you as you begin your divorce. So if  you are presently still in shock because your partner has informed you that she or he does not want to be in the marriage anymore, ... still in a daze hoping the door will open and there she or he will be standing or not believing this is real, or still thinking that you will get back together again after he or she has thought it over....  Lifeline will help you keep your head above water... Help you to to sort out your racing thoughts until you are ready to start working the program. Knowing what is happening to you, knowing what you have to do... and having a detailed divorce recovery program to follow helps you to move through the divorce process with assurance, even if you never wanted the divorce.

 

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If you are separated with full intention of never getting back together I strongly suggest the Lifeline Program.
If you are separated and plan to reunite with your former spouse... I have now created a program to help you discover your marriage. Since only you can do this discovery, I would also suggest that your spouse also use this program. It is especially important that both get on the same page before you get back together. It will give you insight in your marriage, create open communication about the "problemed marriage" and bring you both to rebuilding the marriage or mutual divorce.

Your former marriage, as you knew it, became broken.  That particular marriage has died. If you are to get back together and build a new marriage together, it will have to be different from the one whose structure collapsed. (Yes, even when 3rd party involved, because the problem is not the third party but with the marriage partner who choose to spit on his or her marriage.) 

The program about examining the marriage as it was and as you want it to be. It is about learning from it so as to empower you and your spouse to form a healthier love relationship in the future. It is about discovering what you really want and then creating it in your life. It is not about being a victim, but it is a program of empowerment that provides the participant's  the possibility of creating a fulfilling marriage, especially when both parties work the program and get on the same page.

** For.. anyone who has divorced can tell you... that divorce makes no one happy. Divorce does not make the next love relationships any better than the previous. The only thing good about divorce is that it does give you the opportunity for doing personal growth and when you do, you build and attract more loving relationships. Life is much too short to go from one painful relationship to another. "Project Discovery" and "Lifeline After Divorce" contain all the basic tools you will need to build a strong marriage system. They give you the information to create relationships that grow progressively more comfortable, rather than relationships that grow progressively more painful. You have a right to enjoy intimate and loving relationships! 

These two programs are NOT just another Band-Aid remedy!
 
 

For those who are separated, planning to reunite Working the program helps your entire family from remaining in limbo indefinitely. You do the work to  identify the strengths and the weak areas of your marriage system, discuss with your partner and decide if both are willing to apply the simple tools effective in making the marriage comfortable.  If one or the other is not willing to make the effort to build their marriage system different than the one that became broken, then more serious decision are made. Or by working the program you may also discover that the marriage is  not what is best for you and as you become stronger you will have the courage  to put an end to it so the entire family can finally start their recovery and start planning their lives in a different way.  Project Discovery when your marriage is in crisis it will help you to discover if you should stay and rebuild of if you should go. It is about making an informed decision. Click here

NOTE:
To those whose love relationship broke because of the death of a spouse:
Lifeline  Recovery Program is of equal value to the widowed for the rebuilding of your life and understanding the areas of adjustment that you must work through to create your happiness and move into the rest of your life. You simply work the areas that apply to you. It is a powerful program that moves you forward.. You come at peace with the past and feel the freedom to live life fully today and the rest of your life. Your former spouse will always be a part of your history. She or he walked with you for one segment of your life. Lifeline prepares you to welcome new experiences on the next segments of your life.

Few of you were prepared for his or her leaving the marriage so suddenly. There is still was one million things you wished you could have said and wish you could say right now. There is still much unfinished business and only  you can finish it and this will set you free from the loss of your marriage. You are still left to divorce yourself from your marriage.

I know for so many widows and widowers that do not want to rub shoulders with the divorced because of some assumptions that these "singles" are losers because their marriage broke. Yet, the divorced have more in common with your new found "singleness" than those who have never experienced the loss of a marriage, a spouse, and an intact family. It is no less painful or devastating to the one who was was initiated and did not want the loss of the marriage. The biggest difference is the anger, the feelings of powerlessness..at a former spouse who still walks amongst the living..and it feels like this was not necessary at all..and they rationalize that at least if he or she were dead, than there would be a reason for all this pain and I would not have to give up half of my assets on top of all this.
 

After the death of a spouse It helps you to grieve the loss of your marriage so you can reach acceptance of that also and feel  free to reclaim and rediscover you in your life today. Once again,  you will give yourself permission to dream and acknowledge your desires and you will move forward into the rest of your life with hope for your future.

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Louise Gobeil Jenner
Personal Life Coach
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